c'est la vie

It is that time of the year again. Buy a new swimming costume time. Because I spend a lot of time on the beach and in the sea, my costumes tend to only last one year. I have wondered since the sea is right in front of me 24/7, why I have never considered getting 2 or 3 costumes a year given the time I spend down there.  But I digress. The costume thing. Costumes and changing rooms at stores, are not friends. Having a front, side and heaven forbid, back view all at once can be both frightening and traumatic. Now those of you who are slender, and that does not have to mean younger, just slender, may not know this. I now know a lot of women my age and older and many of them are slender.  I am referring to the more "round" shaped people of the population. Like me. Someone taught me that phrase - "my shape is round". I know you get apple shape and pear shape and all types of body shapes according to the experts. Mine is round. Think more Oros man. And I say this with gre...

So along came Mel. And told us to "Let Them". Yes, I like millions of others, have the book. After all, let's not forget that it shot up the bestseller list and by making us believe that her rules of life are the only ones to be followed, she banked several more millions of dollars.  I believe a lot of Let Them things however I (like many, many other reviews, including some serious writers), believe that the term became a bit much - I listened to the audiobook and her Let Them phrase every sixth word became almost as annoying as the wanna be Duchess of Sussex and her tendency to now use the word "yet" at the end of every sentence. What Mel seems to miss is the fact that her theory is not one that no-one has ever thought of, practiced, heard a life coach or psychologist or someone tell them. Eight years ago my psychologist (yes I had one, today it's like having a hairdresser or nail tech), told me that you cannot wear all the problems of those around you, lik...

Simple post - what is and isn’t a miserable life? Miserable life Struggling to find work unless you married to a millionaire Having no fuel Finding out at 10pm the filter coffee for espresso machine is finished A broken vacuum cleaner Someone throwing a rock at your car Losing your parents Losing your parents while your life is falling apart Losing my beautiful pet, Pepper Spending 673 days packing up a house Being left an expensive house that needs some repairs that could have been done if all things were equal Knocking coffee onto a library book Friends who tell you that you have to drink decaf  Not a miserable life Knowing that you were unemployed because someone else was a * Speaking the truth - not accepting blame for someone else’s inappropriate comment  Not always having a ton of money Being unemployed - challenging but not miserable Living 400m from the beach Inheriting a house  365 days a year view of ocean from our deck Lots of board games Being unemployed Incre...