trust me because i promise you

Such a little word.  5 letters.  But such huge meaning.  
Trust me.  I trust you.  Trust them.  Trusting.  Trusted. 
All extensions of those 5 letters.  But all come down to that same thing ....

goes hand in hand with another interesting group of letters. 

I promise. 
 8 letters.  Huge meaning. 
I promise (always). I promise (and actually mean it).  I promise (for the next 24 hours).  I promise (I don't actually). 
Promises. Promised. Promising.  All extensions.  But all comes down to that thing .... 

It is quite amazing how in some circumstances life has become so superficial that those 2 phrases, Trust and I promise, are bandied about so casually. 

In my house when you say "I promise", you better be damn sure you mean it.  In today's world of BBM, Twitter, Whatsapp, Facebook and a growing plethera of social media, very often you can utter that phrase via one of those, and somehow when you don't have to actually look someone in the eye as you utter it, you may stupidly believe that it is ok to just break that promise, or neglect to keep it, or wiggle your way out of it .... it's a growing phenomenon and one I would like to shield my kids from . It's so easy when you are not looking at the person. We need to grow a society in which these values are re-instilled. 

Your word is your honour I tell them.  And when you tell someone "I promise I won't .........." whatever you want to insert in there, take a breath before you say it out loud.  And make sure. You promise in my house and stuff it up willingly ..... not a great decision (trust me). 

And trust?  It's a funny little thing.  You can or you can't.  You do or you don't and I also teach the kids .... when you have promised someone they can trust you, and you break that trust, you better be prepared for a long period of trying to earn that trust again. 

On that subject it leads me to think of that other little word ..... LIE.  But that is a whole other story.  

So just because every day so many people get caught up in other people's webs, doesn't matter whether you are young or old, male or female, single or married, happy or sad, whatever ..... just remember ...

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter: 
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said:
"No, Dad. You hold my hand." 
"What's the difference?", asked the puzzled father. 

"There's a big difference," replied the little girl. 
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go." I trust you. 

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So put your hand in the hand of the people whom you trust rather than expecting them to hold yours...


Till next time, 
c'est la vie xxxx

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