Research is stating more and more often that in every one of our friendship / family circles there is at least one person who does.
Either it is openly known or seen, or carefully hidden by that person.
Depression is an illness. It is not a choice like what movie to see, what day to go to the dentist, what colour top to put on or whether or not to have a 2nd cup of coffee.
Depression does not jump up and wave a large flag in your face when it is about to swoop. It is either there all the time, or sidles up to you every now and then, usually without warning, visits for a while and then slithers off. You do not get to choose, it is not like a hotel booking where you say "five nights please".
When diagnosed with any other serious illness, people would normally find themselves treated with great sympathy and genuine caring. The person who has the sickness did not ask for it, and has to li…
📚📚📚 So today the much awaited (or feared) Matric Results for the #Classof2017 were released. Now some students would have been waiting with great joy, some with great trepidation, some with great angst, others with complete confidence and others still with utter panic. Every student would like to do his or her best. OK, maybe most students. Some have to additionally do their mother or father’s concept of what their “best” is. Some have had no guidance or family life or had a lack of books and/or stationery and will fail as a result. Others will have those same restrictions and soar. The press and social media are full of success stories today. From all spheres of life, all incomes, all family backgrounds. I saw and heard and read of kids with distinctions from upmarket schools but I also saw my fair share of kids with that many distinctions from not such upmarket schools or very understaffed and underequipped schools. I saw stories of kids who studied the entire year by candl…
So, how many of your New Year resolutions have you already broken? It is, after all, already the 5th of January.
I have given up with the resolutions thing. What does it do? Brings pressure. Extra stress. Huge expectations. I have realized that if I need to sleep more, I need to do it now. If I want to lose 10kg, I need to start now. No matter whether now is Feb, June or September of a year. The emergence of a new year gives us this false sense of a “starting point” - a belief that if you start on the first day of the new year, what can go wrong? I am not knocking anyone for whom this works. Just not for me.
So let me cover the highlights of the years that I did try. Let’s take food. So on the 1st of January I decide that I will no longer eat chocolate or drink fizzy cold drinks. At 11am the box of Quality Street chocolates from the previous year are staring at me. They are feeling sad because they know they are Christmas time chocolates and are worried that no-on…